Dear Matthew,
Many thanks. I'm glad you find the ideas exciting, especially in a
psychotherapeutic context!
Well, I can reassure you and everyone else that my intention is never
exclusional - if it was I wouldn't care enough to write and expose my
vulnerabilities in the way that I do. But I do, like many authors, often
find it difficult to recognise in my own writing what others may find
difficult to follow, and so I welcome respectfully being given a genuine
opportunity to have another go. In such cases I can get insight into where
the difficulty arises and try to make suitable accommodations, putting any
initially hurt feelings I might have aside.
So it's good to know that I can indeed make more sense second-time-around
when given the chance by someone who points out the difficulty - a case of
needing practice to enhance the simplicity of the communication, which is
never easy, especially with unfamiliar ideas. On the other hand I must admit
that I can get very frustrated when I feel that my or someone else's
language is being disparaged out-of-hand because it doesn't fit with
someone's preconceptions - and that this is somehow my/their 'fault', for
me/them to rectify or else be dismissed.
I feel it's very important, especially in a forum such as this one, for us
all to try to listen respectfully, forgivingly and dare I say lovingly to
each other through our respective language barriers and idiosyncrasies. Of
course it can be hard work to get on the inside of someone else's cryptic
expression and I too often struggle at first - in my case with some action
research jargon. But if we can't listen respectfully, forgivingly and
lovingly here, how might we be in our educational and therapeutic practice?
Do we feel excluded or offended by and lose patience with the student or
client as they struggle to find words to express what is on their minds?
It's the thought that is most important (I just avoided saying 'counts'!),
not the language that expresses the thought, notwithstanding the close
relationship between the two.
Warmest
Alan
----- Original Message -----
From: "Matthew Ganda" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Friday, March 21, 2008 2:35 PM
Subject: Re: Ojectivity etc.....
> Dear Alan,
> I personally find your thoughts and ideas exciting and they help me
> clarify my own thinking as a psychotherapist BUT I frequently struggle
> with the language you use. There are times when others on the this list
> have invited you to explain your ideas in plain and clear English and when
> you have done so I have often thought to myself, "why didn't Alan put it
> like that in the first place?". I sometimes experience the language you
> frequently use as having an exclusional effect on me.
> Regards
> Matthew
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Alan Rayner (BU)" <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Sent: Friday, March 21, 2008 10:13 AM
> Subject: Re: Ojectivity etc.....
>
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