Simi....My parents (both deceased) NEVER did adjust (?) to my polio which
I contracted at age 9. They both died a few months before they turned 90,
but my mother was 7 years younger. It was with shock that I realized when
I was in my 50s that my father was legally blind for most of his life. He
never talked in terms of a disability. It is much more complex than this,
but anymore will have to be off list....David
On Thu, 11 Feb 1999, Simi Linton wrote:
> In Tuesday's NY Times there was an interview with Charles Ruff's mom.
> He is the chief White House counsel, disabled guy.
> In the course of the interview, the writer (not mom) states that Ruff
> "came down with a poliolike virus that has left him in a wheelchair
> ever since." (I quote this not to start another tennis match about
> language - although this is as ridiculous and problematic as
> wheelchair bound, but as context for the following:
> Ruff's mom is quoted as saying "He's handled it extremely well. Better
> than I."
>
> I am curious about her statement. It was my experience that my mother
> was "adjusting" to my impairment/disability status, long after I'd
> moved on.
> I arrived at disability in my early 20's, and I think my mother never
> quite got past it.
> I know this is quite personal, but I am attempting to write about it
> for a broad audience and I would like to learn whether this is a
> phenomenon that others can relate to or a more idiosyncratic
> experience.
> Thanks for your help, REply off-list if you'd like.
> Simi Linton
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