My difficulty (as a Mum) is not in the acceptance of my sons differences,
but in accepting societies need to try and remould him into something within
an 'acceptable norm'.
I would prefer that he was allowed to 'be'.
To discover the world in the way that is easiest/ acceptable for him.
He is a remarkable individual, and doesn't need changing.
The forces outside of him apply so much pressure, and can be so isolating.
Gill.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: [log in to unmask]
> [mailto:[log in to unmask]]On Behalf Of David
> Pfeiffer
> Sent: 11 February 1999 20:10
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: Ruff's mom
>
>
> Simi....My parents (both deceased) NEVER did adjust (?) to my polio which
> I contracted at age 9. They both died a few months before they turned 90,
> but my mother was 7 years younger. It was with shock that I realized when
> I was in my 50s that my father was legally blind for most of his life. He
> never talked in terms of a disability. It is much more complex than this,
> but anymore will have to be off list....David
>
> On Thu, 11 Feb 1999, Simi Linton wrote:
>
> > In Tuesday's NY Times there was an interview with Charles Ruff's mom.
> > He is the chief White House counsel, disabled guy.
> > In the course of the interview, the writer (not mom) states that Ruff
> > "came down with a poliolike virus that has left him in a wheelchair
> > ever since." (I quote this not to start another tennis match about
> > language - although this is as ridiculous and problematic as
> > wheelchair bound, but as context for the following:
> > Ruff's mom is quoted as saying "He's handled it extremely well. Better
> > than I."
> >
> > I am curious about her statement. It was my experience that my mother
> > was "adjusting" to my impairment/disability status, long after I'd
> > moved on.
> > I arrived at disability in my early 20's, and I think my mother never
> > quite got past it.
> > I know this is quite personal, but I am attempting to write about it
> > for a broad audience and I would like to learn whether this is a
> > phenomenon that others can relate to or a more idiosyncratic
> > experience.
> > Thanks for your help, REply off-list if you'd like.
> > Simi Linton
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