Francine Nicholson wrote:
> So my
>question is not why they did it in hagiography, but was it a real,
>historical practice? And, if it was, how did the women feel about this
>practice--and how many women were raped in the process and who was blamed in
>such cases?
>
Some rambling thoughts on the history of the practice, which is often
called syneisaktism.
Varied references throughout Christian history attest that it was an
actual historical practice, though most sources were written by those
who were hostile to it. Syneisaktism, roughly defined as celibate
cohabitation between an unrelated man and woman dedicated to the
religious life, can take a wide range of forms. It was believed to
be a trial endured for heavenly reward (due to constant sexual
temptation) and a form of realized eschatology (due to absence of
sexual temptation); such ascetics also offered each other mutually
rewarding friendship and support. The earliest reference to the
practice may come from Paul himself (1 Corinthians 7.36-38, 9.5).
The first clear condemnation was from Cyprian in the third century,
and it was subsequently denounced in over 20 councils and synods
between 267 and 787. The many criticisms written against it
(including those by Jerome and Chrysostom) suggest that the sin in
celibate heterosexual cohabitation was not sex, but the scandal it
brought to others. As Bernard of Clairvaux famously put it, "To be
always with a woman and not to know her carnally, is not this more
than to raise the dead? The lesser of these you cannot do, so why
shall I believe that you are capable of the greater?" He then
described a life of close proximity between the sexes and added, "you
wish to be thought continent? Perhaps you are, but I doubt it." To
him it was a scandal and he argued that anyone who scandalized one
member of the church transgressed against the entire church and, if
not corrected, fell from sin into heresy. To others, this scandal
could be a motivation for syneisaktism--according to Giraldus
Cambrensis, Aldhelm practiced syneisaktism "so that he might be
defamed by men, but his continence rewarded the more copiously in the
future by God, who understood his conscience."
Not all accounts are hostile, as you know yourself from the Irish
sources. Outside of Ireland, the most positive assessments come
mainly from 12th-century France and England. The Life of Christina
of Markyate describes several relationships which could be considered
syneisaktism, including one in which sexual desire grew too powerful
and she had to flee from the situation; she was cured of her lust
through a mystical experience with Christ, to whom she responded as
both mother and lover--the man (a cleric) had already been cured by a
vision of Mary Magdalene, who had vehemently chastised him for his
attempted adultery with a bride of Christ; overall, however, the
author seems favorable to the practice. Eve of Wilton's syneisaktism
with Hervey, formerly a monk of Vendôme, was praised by the poet
Hilary, though he acknowledged that their relationship could easily
be misunderstood: "I feel that you are troubled, you who hear such
talk. Brother, avoid all suspicious thought; let this not be the
cause. Such love was not in the world but in Christ." Libellus de
diversis ordininibus et professionibus qui sunt in aecclesia promised
that its second book would celebrate holy women, including "those who
sweetly take up Christ's yoke with holy men;" unfortunately, if this
book was ever written, it has since been lost.
Sharing the same bed wasn't always involved, but it was a critical
factor for Robert of Arbrissel, at least according to Geoffrey of
Vendôme's letter in 1102: inter ipsas noctu frequenter cubare non
erubescis. Hinc tibi videris, ut asseris, Domini Salvatoris digne
bajulare crucem, cum exstinguere conaris male accensum carnis
ardorem. Hoc si modo agis, vel aliquando egisti, novum et inauditum,
sed infructuosum genus martyrii invenistis [you do not blush to often
lie in bed between/among these women at night. Hence you seem to
yourself, as you assert, to worthily carry the cross of our Lord
Savior, since you try to abolish the badly inflamed passion of the
flesh. If you do this now, or have done so at any time, you have
contrived a new and unheard of but barren type of martyrdom].
Robert's response is not recorded. This "barren martyrdom" was also
practiced by various 19th-century American Christian groups, who
called it "bundling." As in Late Antiquity and the Middle Ages, it
often led to scandal. Gandhi practiced it as well; whatever else he
may have gained, his nightly exercises have aroused Mary Daly's ire,
both for him and the practice in general ("What is really going on
here is an enormous draining of women's energies into the
phallocentric cesspool").
Ireland seems to offer the widest perspective on the practice, for,
against, and indifferent, but we don't have any clear-cut firsthand
perspective from a woman, with the possible exception of Comrac
Líadaine ocus Cuirithir, which may well have been written by a woman.
The experience of Liadain and Curithir is somewhat unusual, however,
as they were lovers of a sort before either of them entered the
religious life, and long before their failed experiment. Your
question as to how many women may have been raped in these
experiments/relationships is an interesting one. Mary Daly might
argue that all the female participants are being raped in some
fashion, but in what I've read the women do not seem unwilling.
Scothín's companions in the Félire Óengusso are among the most
objectified; they seem to be little more than props in Scothín's
quest for spiritual purity (though they do advise Brénainn as to how
he should best handle the situation); most of the other accounts I've
read give a greater sense of equality between the male and female
participants, and occasionally the women seem to dominate and/or
initiate the relationship. When they fail in their quest to
transcend temptation, both the man and woman generally assume
responsibility, though usually the woman does to greater degrees.
For some great work on the subject, see: Roger Reynolds, "Virgines
Subintroductae in Celtic Christianity," Harvard Theological Review 61
(1968): 547-66; Rosemary Rader, Breaking Boundaries; Jo Ann McNamara,
Sisters in Arms, and "Chaste Marriage and Clerical Celibacy," in
Sexual Practices and the Medieval Church; Sharon Elkins, Holy Women
of Twelfth-Century England; and Dyan Elliot, Spiritual Marriage
(Spiritual marriage and syneisaktism are similar but different; the
former being when husband and wife vow continence at the beginning of
or at some other point in their marriage, whereas in the latter the
participants are not married--at least, not to each other!).
Maeve
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