Hi everyone
I just wanted to add to the comments below that 'intellectual' was perhaps
too narrow a term. I also think that shared experiences do not maketh a
connection either. As a result of my own reflection, the connection seems
related to how I and other people interperet those shared experiences. I
know people who I have many things in common with but they bore me
senseless (oops showing my arrogance). If I meet someone who shares the
same 'take' or 'spin' on an issue - the person you spot snickering during a
serious speech in all the right places for instance. It seems to me to be a
metacommunicative thing. I know what their thinking is the same as I'm
thinking therefore we can understand each other. Where this
metacommunication occurs I tend toward banter as a preffered method of play.
At 09:37 AM 8/3/99 +0100, you wrote:
>Hi,
>
>In response to laurence and Vicki's comments:
>>
>>You wrote: I think we all like to socialise at least some of
>>the time with people who we 'connect' with at an intellectual level.
>>
>>Maybe what we're doing is not connecting at an intellectual level but
>>connecting through our shared experiences, in this way the connections we
>>make are not about how we cognitively operate but how we are going about
>>interacting with other people. The context of situation and the topics of
>>conversation will all have a bearing of how comfortable that is.
>>
>I think also that the 'comfortableness' may be related to other factors
>such as gender. For example, I don't feel too comfortable about separating
>the experiential-emotive and the intellectual-cognitive, because that is
>what we are conditioned to do.
With best regards
Laurence Bathurst
University of Sydney
School of Occupation and Leisure Sciences
Faculty of Health Sciences
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