{People who don't enjoy conflict shd delete this message now]
Carolyn,.
> I know you didn't ask me to give my two cents but here goes.
You dont need permission on a public list :-) and I welcome your
comments though I invariably seem to disagree with them.
> There's an
> old Swahili proverb, "It takes a village to raise a child."
Yes, I've often longed for the ideal village, but that's precisely the
point - we're not going back to the extended family in the village in my
life-time - therefore disability is problematic in a way that it wouldnt
be in an ideal extended family - although how ideal such a set-up is or
was outside of bucolic fantasy, I have no idea.
I can't think of a better time in western history for women with my
background, history, genes, lack of capital, than now, so I can't see
myself wanting to turn the clock back. The question I have is, in what
way will the most enlightened welfare system in the world actually give
our children the loving attention that they deserve?
> I've nothing scientific to back it up but, having that
> dive-bombing "obsessive, peseverative, highly strung, hair-trigger
> sensitive, empathy-less when stressed, illogical, mind-numbingly
boring
> and repetitive, chaos-making, labour intensive, screechy voiced
demanding
> little person who never sleeps" (which, to me, sounds like every kid
I've
> known between the ages of 2 and 10)
Didn't I mention that I was talking about kids on the autistic spectrum?
I assure you that they are *not* like "every kid you've ever known
between the ages of 2 and 10". I apologise if you thought I was talking
about the kind of kid that you know, but since we are on a disability
list, I shd have thought you'd know better than to make a dissmissive
statement like that.
> go play at the neighbors for a couple
> of hours a day would probably relieve the stress on both your parts
and
> that is, in part, how society can improve the situation.
Kids on the autistic spectrum do not choose to go over to the neighbours
and "play for a few hours", and the average neighbours wouldnt know what
to do with them if they did.
I'm not sure what theoretical point this is proving. other than that
like you, I'm feeling irritated. Trouble with academic lists is that
everything has to *be* couched in some kind of grand theory, when all
that's going on is that people have been hurt in some way, and want to
vent their feelings.
Judy
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