“Tell me, baby: Where did I go wrong?” (Prince, 1990)
“Dry your eyes, mate” (Skinner, 2004)
“I will survive” (Perren & Fekaris, 1978)
Looking for and not getting a job is an emotional experience worthy of the great poets and popular music artistes. It has everything from the thrill of the chase to the infatuation, from the fantasising about a blissful future together to the pain of rejection when the job goes off with someone else. However, perhaps because singer-songwriters don’t usually apply for jobs, it’s a story that’s rarely told. The psychology of loss is a well-established line of research and clinical practice but no one has tried to describe the stages of not-getting-a-job. Until now.
Loss only matters if you think it was something worth losing in the first place and, in the case of missing out on a job, you’re losing out on a promising future as well as the time and emotional energy invested in researching and preparing for a job interview. There are parallels to intimate relationships from the start: jobs sites are just like dating sites, looking to make matches based on compatible interests and experiences; sometimes your friends introduce you to a job you might like at a party; sometimes your parents try to set you up with a job. Then comes the getting-to-know-you application process, before being called for interview feels like a first date. You think about what you’re going to say, the stories that highlight your best attributes, and the questions that show you’re really keen. Then, just when you’ve started to allow yourself to imagine a long and beautiful life together, it’s over in a phone call
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