I am terribly sorry. I did not name any names. I simply said I did not
wanted to enter any argument with him since the mail he sent was not too
nice and showed he was willing to take it even further.
I have his three mails and my two mails here. I am willing to share them,
there should be anyone who wants to verify.
My best wishes,
Anny
On Thu, Jan 15, 2009 at 4:02 AM, Kenneth Wolman <[log in to unmask]>wrote:
> On two or three past occasions I have dropped off this list, usually in a
> huff, only to return shortly thereafter. This time, taking the same leave,
> I am entirely deliberate. I cannot stay here. I don't know what the World
> Elsewhere looks like, but it doesn't look like this.
>
> Earlier today I entered into a brief but hostile correspondence with
> someone on the list who, when confronted, told me she withheld an invitation
> from me to contribute to the winter anthology because she considered me
> duplicitous and a false friend. Why? Because I did not take her side in a
> controversy regarding the now-famous online anthology. When I asked for
> further details she said did not want to argue anymore. Yes, she named
> names. I will not repeat them.
>
> In fact I had taken no side. I wanted no part of the hyperventilating and
> name-calling. But imagining I did appeared to gratify this person's need
> for neatly defined angels and demons, as though this were some damned Dan
> Brown or Tim LaHaye novel where you're with the powers of Darkness or of
> Light.
>
> Yes, from my hurt and to my discredit I then took chunks of the received
> emails and sent them to people on and off the list. It was surely an ugly
> gesture in recompense for one that was uglier still. I have sometimes
> probed my personal limits of forgiveness, and today I found one of them. I
> have no charity for the uncharitable. And I learned that here.
>
> For the last year this has become an increasingly painful place. I do not
> like censoring myself. True, doing so was my choice, going effectively
> silent was my choice: but I felt as though my choices of subject matter were
> subject to the prevailing attitudes here. I was too cowed by the prospect
> of disapproval to go counter to an environment that would have sunk far
> better writers that I can hope to be. Where poetryetc in 2003 and 2004 was
> feeding my writing and expanding me, beginning in 2005 it's undermined my
> ability to create much of anything.
>
> There seem to be two modes on this list: ignore and attack. I'm sure
> that's not news. I just happen to detest it. I would rather be attacked
> than ignored, and I've been ignored for longer than I care to remember.
>
> A great and good friend of over 12 years' standing who is not on the list
> but is in fact in the winter poems anthology told me today that she has
> begun backing away from the politics that are pervasive in any group of
> poets. I don't know if she can do it. Naively, I didn't know there *were*
> any. I never thought about factionalism while I was here, just the vapidity
> and arrogance of specific individuals. The more fool I. In this particular
> inbred society I feel like an intruder about to be sucked up by white
> corpuscles.
>
> I shall simply have to find a new place in which to be a misfit. And no,
> BritPo is not an option for reasons you can easily discern.
>
> Best wishes to you all. Some of you I would delight in hearing from again.
> Others have names I hope to forget.
>
> Ken
>
> --
> Ken Wolman http://awfulrowing.wordpress.com/
> http://www.petsit.com/content317832.html
> ---------------------------------
> "All writers are hunters, and parents are the most available
> prey."--Francine du Plessix Gray
>
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Anny Ballardini
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I Tell You: One must still have chaos in one to give birth to a dancing
star!
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