Much I disagree with in your post, Ken, but I'll limit myself to what seems to me a very faulty piece of reasoning.
"I know a
woman who has counseled women who have had abortions, and she assured me
there are intense and long-term consequences attached. Consequences are
the real world."
Forget for a moment that there are long-term consequences attached to the unwanted birth of a child as well, and I've certainly counselled a lot of families in which that's happened. But do remember that your friend's sample was women who sought counselling and not the large number who don't find it necessary.