Quibbles aside...the need for a title and some expressions already
pointed out...this reads like the testimony of the Damned in one of
Dante's circles of Hell ("You want to wind up like us?"). I've got Alan
Dugan on the brain lately so I of course think (again) of "I and Thou,"
but if this is not up to Dugan it's because the love-hate-dependency
matrix in "I and Thou" isn't here--this is Hell without an exit or
acknowledgement of need. Still...a line like "To be happy and married /
is to have made peace with destitution" is indispensible. It's also
I have to argue with the last line simply because I don't believe it.
People DO choose it. Any of us who have been in marriages that failed
have the hardest time remembering when they were in love with and loved
the person they chose to marry. It might be a more successful strategy
to acknowledge that we made the choice, but wonder why and further
acknowledge the eroding operation of time on love.
Enough from me.
Dominic Fox wrote:
> Love is both grand and blind, by decree
> of common wisdom.
> Don't you think there might
> be something in it? Take a little heed
> for your heart's sake, and not only that -
> body and soul, dear,
> body and soul are staked
> out on that great wheel, in the sun's glare.
> Marriage is daylight robbery: you'll lose
> more than you knew you had.
> To be happy and married
> is to have made peace with destitution.
> You want to end up like us? Get real:
> it's you that will be deported.
> Exile in your own house - that's
> where "settling down" will get you.
> Lord knows how I love my wife;
> how my children vex me
> daily with astonishment.
> Still I must warn you: nobody *chooses* this.
> Dominic Fox, Leicester 22.50pm
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