Seems like a good time to throw in one of my favourite quotes from Susan Wendell: "Parents, especially mothers, are often the scapegoats of a society that fails to provide adequate resources for people with disabilities, but holds them to a high ideal of independance. Such a society exploits mothers' caregiving, demands unlimited sacrifice from them, and then blames them for giving too much care!!!" (The Rejected Body, Routledge, 1996, p141) Judy Singer %%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%