Dear Monica,
I feel your pain :) However, do not give up on HA quite yet. There are literally thousands of options, including Iodine (which, if done right, is quite gentle!) and various 'weird' rare earths (like Samarium, Europium, or my recent favorite Praseodymium) -- point being if you have diffracting crystals you are 90% there, and the last 10% is worth the effort.
Please feel free to contact me personally if you would like some specific advice. Even though I run a company now, we are always available (and always free) for advice to our academic colleagues.
Artem
www.harkerbio,com