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to see how
they would/might react in situations such as a confrontation with a
student or dealing with angry parents at parets' evenings. If you do use
visualisation - how do you..?
Thank
You!
Sarah
Sarah Fletcher
Consultant Research
Mentor
http://www.TeacherResearch.net Convenor for BERA
Mentoring and Coaching SIG Details at
http://www.bera.ac.uk
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That's SO helpful. Thanks, Dana,
Do you
use visualisation in your work - I used to e.g. for helping
trainee teachers to 'see' how they could re
Sarah
Fletcher
Consultant Research Mentor
http://www.TeacherResearch.net Convenor for BERA
Mentoring and Coaching SIG Details at
http://www.bera.ac.uk
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17, 2010, 11:56 AM
OK. Lets take a recent client
and call her Amanda (not her real name). Amanda is the mother
of two children who wanted to return to work. She had been out
of the workplace for fours years looking after her children.
During this time, her marriage had broken down and she was
recovering from the emotional turmoil of a divorce. At our
first session, Amanda told me she had applied for several jobs
with little or no response. She had yet to be invited to
attend an interview. Amanda had been applying for jobs
which required minimum commitment with little in the way of
job prospects. This was because she wanted to give her
children ‘priority’ attention. Her motivation for returning to
work was financial and she had fears around lack of support
from her ex-husband in supporting the children in the long
term future.
While these concerns were well founded,
they were driving Amanda to apply for jobs which in no way
matched her skills, attributes or personal expectations. She
was driven by ‘I’m not good enough to apply for anything other
than a moderate job’ and blamed the recession, her status as a
single mother, lack of time, money, her ex-husband and
anything else that was beyond her control.
I then asked
Amanda what she would do if money wasn’t an issue. Her voice
became lighter; she smiled and looked as though a huge weight
had been lifted from her. Then I simply fed that observation
back to Amanda. In that moment, her awareness was raised as
she realised she had been so tied up by the issue of earning
(a moderate) income that she had totally lost sight of what
she really had to offer in the workplace.
Over the
next few sessions, we looked at Amanda’s skills, qualities and
attributes. Amanda was then able to create a vision for
herself and her family. A scenario of how she wanted her life
to be. We were then able to draw up an action plan to move
Amanda towards her goal. With renewed confidence and a sense
of purpose, Amanda started to create opportunities for
herself. Shortly afterwards she was recruited to join a local
company who were looking for some part time but specialist
support. The job worked around her family commitments and more
than met her financial demands.
By feeding back
Amanda’s self doubt, she was able to acknowledge it in
herself. Once Amanda allowed inspiration to take over fear,
she had a choice and was able to move forward
again.
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