----- Original Message -----
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2003 8:37
AM
Subject: Re: don't be afraidt
Hello Amanda
I know what you mean about
limits. My two rescue Persians will wait until I'm walking along
with a tray of tea and then immediately drop down in front of my
feet. Once they got me and the tray and I went in two separate
directions. The china sustained irreparable fractures and I had a
bruised ego. Oh but can't you just love em :-)
Best
Gerald
ps To those who may have just joined the list, sometimes
things go a little off topic!
Oh Gerald,
If only that's what Kitty
wanted to help me with, but it seems to be her mission in life that she
can't seem to settle, waving her bum around constantly. I love her to bits,
but really ... there are limits.
Best Wishes
Amanda
On
Monday, April 14, 2003, at 01:57 pm, G.F. Phillips wrote:
Hello Amanda
Good points. However
what I wanted to say was that one of my cats religiously sits between my
lap and the keyboard. Sometimes tapping in letters that I
don't want. I shall let her type my next post
:-) Sorry folks if this is a bit off
topic.
Best
Gerald
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From: Amanda Poyner <[log in to unmask]>
To:
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Date:
13 April 2003 15:30
Subject: Re: don't be afraidt
Dear Helen,
Everyone's personal email
address appears at the top of the posting. For instance I know that yours
is [log in to unmask] right?
I think you have put it all very
nicely. Although I personally don't worry, nor feel irritated, or excluded
by the chattiness of this group at times, I can see that others clearly do
feel some of these things, and am happy therefore, to be flexible in my
responses, and inclusive when someone enters with something to reply to.
That is, of course, if I am able to respond. It might be that I am neither
interested, qualified, of even present during the thread.
However,
all things evolve, including the cat that is parading her bottom in front
of my face every few seconds as she TRIES to settle between me and the
keyboard! She will evolve on to the floor in a minute. Oh, does this
chattiness, constitute something that is superfluous to the scope of the
group?
Sorry, I think I am being a little obtuse ..... probably
because I am thinking as I go along with this, that all the above, would
mean treading on eggshells. Perhaps we could therefore just get on with
being part of the diverse group that this is, and stop worrying about
whether we are being excluded or not. If you do not contribute, for
whatever reason, how are we supposed to know that you feel this way, or
for that matter that you exist as a member at all? Afterall (just put the
cat on the floor!), are we all not completely responsible for our own
process, our own feelings, and the extent to which we contribute or
not.
If you want a serious discussion, then create one! and those
who wish to contribute to it, will do
so.
Regards
Amanda
On Sunday, April 13, 2003, at 02:26
pm, helen hannick wrote:
Hello everyone.
I've just returned to
my pc and perused the postings regarding Nick's departure.
One way or
another it seems some 'group process time' emerged after Nick left. What
I've picked up is the way some of us feel that top
heavy- lightweight exchanges (!?)can potentially put some people
off, either because they feel excluded or are disinterested in
the non-content (or perceived lack of substance) of the exchanges.
The
proposed solutions to this seem to be that we introduce
ourselves when we come on the scene and try to contribute
frequently meanwhile responding to personalised postings
'backchannel',-thus respecting the overall aim of this e group
without becoming too rigid thereby losing our spontaneity and the
space to let off steam.
This is my spontaneous contribution. And if
there's anyone on the list out there who feels daunted by the perceived
'clubiness' I'm encouraging you not to hold back for as long as
I have.
A question: how can we respond backchannel if an
individuals email address doesn't appear on the
posting?
Helen
From: G.F.
Phillips
To:
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Sent: Thursday, April 10, 2003
5:07 PM
Subject: Nick Totton
Hello Folks
Just to let
you know that I have taken it off my own bat to write to Nick saying that
there were numerous responses asking him not to leave. I added
that his would be a valuable voice in any future discussions about
Psych-Couns and essentially asked 'Will you come back'
I've told
Nick that I would let everyone know of my post to
him.
Kindest
Gerald
