Oh Gerald, If only that's what Kitty wanted to help me with, but it seems to be her mission in life that she can't seem to settle, waving her bum around constantly. I love her to bits, but really ... there are limits. Best Wishes Amanda On Monday, April 14, 2003, at 01:57 pm, G.F. Phillips wrote: > Hello Amanda > Good points. However what I wanted to say was that one of my cats > religiously sits between my lap and the keyboard. Sometimes tapping > in letters that I don't want. I shall let her type my next post > :-) Sorry folks if this is a bit off topic. > Best > Gerald > > -----Original Message----- > From: Amanda Poyner <[log in to unmask]> > To: [log in to unmask] <[log in to unmask]> > Date: 13 April 2003 15:30 > Subject: Re: don't be afraidt > > Dear Helen, > > Everyone's personal email address appears at the top of the posting. > For instance I know that yours is [log in to unmask] right? > > I think you have put it all very nicely. Although I personally don't > worry, nor feel irritated, or excluded by the chattiness of this group > at times, I can see that others clearly do feel some of these things, > and am happy therefore, to be flexible in my responses, and inclusive > when someone enters with something to reply to. That is, of course, if > I am able to respond. It might be that I am neither interested, > qualified, of even present during the thread. > > However, all things evolve, including the cat that is parading her > bottom in front of my face every few seconds as she TRIES to settle > between me and the keyboard! She will evolve on to the floor in a > minute. Oh, does this chattiness, constitute something that is > superfluous to the scope of the group? > > Sorry, I think I am being a little obtuse ..... probably because I am > thinking as I go along with this, that all the above, would mean > treading on eggshells. Perhaps we could therefore just get on with > being part of the diverse group that this is, and stop worrying about > whether we are being excluded or not. If you do not contribute, for > whatever reason, how are we supposed to know that you feel this way, > or for that matter that you exist as a member at all? Afterall (just > put the cat on the floor!), are we all not completely responsible for > our own process, our own feelings, and the extent to which we > contribute or not. > > If you want a serious discussion, then create one! and those who wish > to contribute to it, will do so. > > Regards > Amanda > > On Sunday, April 13, 2003, at 02:26 pm, helen hannick wrote: > > Hello everyone. > I've just returned to my pc and perused the postings regarding Nick's > departure. > One way or another it seems some 'group process time' emerged after > Nick left. What I've picked up is the way some of us feel that top > heavy- lightweight exchanges (!?)can potentially put some people off, > either because they feel excluded or are disinterested in the > non-content (or perceived lack of substance) of the exchanges. > The proposed solutions to this seem to be that we introduce ourselves > when we come on the scene and try to contribute frequently > meanwhile responding to personalised postings 'backchannel',-thus > respecting the overall aim of this e group without becoming too > rigid thereby losing our spontaneity and the space to let off steam. > > This is my spontaneous contribution. And if there's anyone on the list > out there who feels daunted by the perceived 'clubiness' > I'm encouraging you not to hold back for as long as I have. > > A question: how can we respond backchannel if an individuals email > address doesn't appear on the posting? > > Helen > > > > From: G.F. Phillips > > To: [log in to unmask] > Sent: Thursday, April 10, 2003 5:07 PM > Subject: Nick Totton > > Hello Folks > Just to let you know that I have taken it off my own bat to write to > Nick saying that there were numerous responses asking him not to > leave. I added that his would be a valuable voice in any future > discussions about Psych-Couns and essentially asked 'Will you come > back' > > I've told Nick that I would let everyone know of my post to him. > Kindest > Gerald >