This isn’t related to one particular message or individual, nor aiming to spark another long debate.
We’re usually good at being civil to each other, and that’s something I value a lot as a list member. I don’t know if its buried anywhere deep in the archives (!), but howsabout we all do show each other respect, whether replying to the whole list or to the individual who posted. Its easy for emails to be upsetting, even if that wasn’t the intention.