Simi and all,
Parents never adjust to a child's disabilities. Adjust is another one
of those medical myths, along with mourning and denial; and if we DON'T
go thru Kubler-Ross's 5 stages of grief, MDs will label us
'pathological.' The thing that they would like us to "accept," tho, and
the thing that we are UNable to accept, is the concept of "disability"
as society has defined it. I just plain didn't SEE my son the way
society saw him. That is not to say that I was not troubled/anxious/
stigmatized/isolated/ shunned/worried/afraid/introverted/hurt/frustrated
and etc. But If some want to believe that I was/am in denial, that's
fine--because I WILL not adjust to or accept the slot our culture would
have him occupy.
A question, tho: what do YOU mean, specifically, when you assert that
your parents never adjusted? (anyone)
Dona
Dona M. Avery
University of Bristol, England
Research Fellow, Graduate School of Education,
& Arizona State University, USA
PhD program, English: Rhetoric & Composition
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Website: http://www.public.asu.edu/~donam
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