Ahmad Risk <[log in to unmask]> writes
>My mother was a full time mother.
>
>I am, and shall remain, very grateful till I die and beyond.
>
>Her 'job' was far more important than anything else I can think of.
Great - there's another one of you implying I'm doing it wrong.
>
>What you ought to be discussing is how society can value the mother who
>has a full time job 'mothering',
No! We shouldn't.
I would have thought we all know you cannot make sweeping
generalisations where people are concerned.
Even if I was paid what I get now to stay at home to be a *full-time
mother* (stupid title that it is) it would not help.
It would not be right for me.
I would be at the bottom of a bottle of sherry by lunchtime, and as for
housework - I am no good at it at all (sorry to disillusion George after
his recent declaration).
I repeat what I said earlier - the most anyone can say is *it is right
for me (and my family) at the moment*, and we have no rights to make
statements, judgements or even suggestions about how other individuals
run their lives.
And as for the term *full time mother* - do you think I am not? Do I
stop being a mother when I arrive at the surgery? If I am called by the
school, or one of the children, do I say "I can offer you an appointment
at 10 o'clock tomorrow", or "I'll put it on my list of things to do" ?
A mother is a mother from the moment of conception, and remains so
forever, full stop.
--
Katie
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