Dear Sharon
Sounds like a professional boundary violation on her part but she may have
additional underlying pathology. Whatever, it appears to have reached a
level which would be considered professionally untenable and unhealthy for
both parties. I suggest that you escalate it to your Line Manager ASAP if
you have not already done so/ask to be relieved from this case/transfer
the case; ensure your Manager/colleague refers the employee to her
clinical medical practitioners(GP)because of her possible threats of
'Don't know what I will do' which could be interpreted as self harm but
you really must get some help with this for both parties; and document all
events.
And thanks for all your great input on this forum.
All best regards
Catherine
> A question - is it ever acceptable to refuse to see someone?
> I have an ongoing situation with an employee who was off with "stress"
following relationship problems. Did a fair bit of work with her,
liaised
> with GP throughout, organised some additional input as she had severe
financial problems etc etc, she came back to work. Since that time she has
> asked to see me most times when I am on site for "support". Have
accomodated this when I have been able to, in all honesty I feel I went
over and above the call of duty. Her peers have also been very
supportive.
> However have to say that now I am feeling a bit harrassed, constant
calls, emails, now she is messaging me on Facebook of all things, if I
dont respond immediately or to her satisfaction she gets quite
> nasty/stroppy. Its getting to the point that I really feel its counter
productive seeing her (and have told her so) and am very conscious that
she is attempting to manipulate me ("if you stop seeing me I just wont be
> able to go on...I dont know what I`ll do.....")
> fairly certain I know what to do but would be interested in the views of
others - not sure she is "ill" as such, am fast coming to conclusion that
> this is just the way she is, and I think I have been too "available "
over the past few months in an attempt to be a support on her return to work.
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