On Fri, 2010-05-21 at 12:41 +1000, Alison Croggon wrote:
> Thanks Judy, Chris and Catherine
I took this from the wompo list which to me seems appropriate for most
discussion lists, esp lists like this where writers and artists are
often trying to figure out problems. Often differences, which I value,
get magnified into major binary oppositions so does this help??
Adapted by Annie Finch, with thanks, from Jane Raeburn's Maine Pagan
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have chronic fatigue syndrome so may be delayed in reply or brain fog weird
just to let you know that's all, Chris Jones.
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