Hello Geeta,
I have read your posting and Audreys replies, so you already have some
good suggestions of 'how' to work with the children. It would seem that
you are intuiting the 'why' they behave like they do, and your
challenge is to help them to express what their deeper feelings are.
One exercise which is really great is to have a pile of cuddly toys of
all shapes, sizes, types and to ask each child to choose one. Then they
sit down with you and each of them in turn without interruption from the
other tells you and each other about the toy. They tell you what they
feel about the toy, how they think the toy is feeling, and anything else
that they would like to say about the toy. Then it is the turn of the
other one. Leave time for appropriate reflection of what they have said
and 'wondering if they understand the toy, because they feel in a
similar way?' Give each child plenty of time, afterall it's what they
have felt they have not had enough of.
Good luck with these two. It's a shame you can't work with the family
situation as a whole and with the mother?
Best Regards
Amanda
On Monday, December 3, 2001, at 09:14 pm, Geeta Gupta wrote:
> To whom this may concern,
>
> I am a student at Leeds Metropolitan University in my last year of a
> degree course in playwork. As part of my module I have to e-mail a
> practitioner and explain a case study of a child who I worked with.
>
> I know two sisters who live across the road from me and they both
> constantly fight with one another. Cameron is the oldest and Paramdeep
> the
> younger sister. They are both always interrupting each other when both
> speaking to their mum, saying i was talking first and shout and push
> each
> other to get to speak first. They are both of similar age and are both
> very
> competitive. They literally fight about everything, such as, watching
> television, games, food, presents and its on going. The mother also gets
> very frustrated and shouts at them back
>
> What i feel is happening here is that both children are competing for
> approval from the mother. Most recently twin boys came into the family
> and
> the girl’s lives have become disrupted. The girls lives are not of the
> average child at their age, they have to help with cooking and cleaning
> and
> do their own homework. The mother has no time for Cameron and Paramdeep
> anymore, but when she does give that slight bit of attention, they both
> want it. They both feel frustrated and take it out on one another.
>
> A solution to this problem, which might help is that, both children
> write
> their of the story. This would be an excellent way to help both girls
> deal
> with their feelings towards one another. they could write their stories
> and
> then read it to each other and discuss how they feel.
>
> I would like some input on the solution to the problem, do you think
> this
> is the right solution.
>
> Thank you, for your attention in this matter.
>
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