My infestation by the recent virus left me feeling very techno-fragile and
wary of posting out. It was hard to trust that I wouldn't infect anyone I
came into contact with..so for a while I've only accepting incoming mail not
daring to send any. However, multiple assurances that I'm 'clean' have
penetrated my paranoic state and I'm sending my first email to the group
for a while.
First I'd like to thank our list owner for the anti virus advice...now
posted above my pc.You warn
<The only caution is that the different systems do not appear to like each
other. If you are going to use one, stick to it and have no other anti-virus
programs on your machine. They can conflict quite badly.>
..it took me much longer than it should have to sort out my virus problem
because all my attempts to downwload the McAfee software failed. Eventually
my technically competent son came to visit and worked out that the existing
(hopeless) virus screen I had was preventing the download(though it didn't
keep out the virus it screened out other 'benign' java programmes from
entering...does that make sense?)Anyway the McAfee, when installed routed
out three infected files. So fingers crossed all seems well.
I'd also like to say to Paul that your story moved me. I know of many people
who've had to struggle against the labels they've been burdened with and
share the distaste of others for the process of labelling. I went to
university at the age of 39...and why I was not there before was-to some
extent since it's never this simple- because I'd internalised the view of
others that I wasn't clever enough. And I'm now a 'success' story - think of
the thousands of others who didn't can't manage. However, I'm aware that
although I fight against labelling others...to a greater or lesser extent I
think it's something most of us do. Or is there another word for the
process of mental categorising which takes place that allows us to make
sense of the chaos which would otherwise characterize our lived realities?
Finally- this refers to the help I requested from the group in early May
regarding the person who wanted to see me as a client but had first met me
(briefly) when I was in my other role in our country home.
Well, I saw her and we discussed the issues involved and agreed that our
only form of contact would be as client/counsellor. The boundaries were
clearly (I thought) defined and though it did not seem, at that time,
appropriate to spend much of our time on exploring the ways in which our
first contact could/had/will effect the counselling process it's something I
was aware of and shelved for future reference.
We've worked together for 14 sessions so far and have just closed for a
summer break. She intends to continue counselling after the holidays.
But just before leaving -almost at the door- she asked something like this
"I know we've discussed why I can't spend time in your rental cottages and I
understand why ....but we're just buying a place in G (a village 30 miles
from us ) and my partner wants to know if he could call your husband for
advice if he needs to find good local plumbers, builders and others cos we
don't know anyone in the locality at all"
That was/is a very difficult one. Door drop with capitals.
Any input on this one?
Regards to all
helen
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