Hello Julie
I was going to write seperately, but thought that I couldn't do better than
Mark has in his well thought through response. I endorse it.
Kindest
Gerald
-----Original Message-----
From: Mark Dean <[log in to unmask]>
To: [log in to unmask] <[log in to unmask]>
Date: 12 June 2001 15:45
Subject: Re: FW: Delusional client
>Hi Julie
>
>I would suggest you stay with what client brings and "forget" what you
>have learned outside the sessions. The unwanted information may be
>skewed anyhow. Do you trust the source of that more than you trust your
>client? why? what does that mean for therapy?
>
>For therapy the important thing is the clients perspective (even if it
>is a tissue of lies). Confront any inconsistencies in the clients
>material when they show up, as they will.
>Something like:
>
>"I'm sorry two sessions ago you seemed to be saying x, now you are
>saying y, perhaps you could clarify that for me"
>
>If you are unable to let go of the unwanted information you could take
>the view that the client is displaying passive aggression and bring that
>out in the session. Does the client show any other signs of this,
>lateness, nothing of substance until the last few minutes of the session
>etc.?
>
>For yourself examine what it is about what you have been told that
>causes the "urge to confront" Is it something about the material or
>something about being lied to?
>
>Discuss with your supervisor and if necessary take your feelings to your
>own therapist.
>
>Interested why you use Delusional to describe the client, mind you I
>guess you can't put lying b*****d in the notes :)
>
>Hope that helps
>Regards
>Mark
>
>"Dykes, Julie" wrote:
>>
>> > -----Original Message-----
>> > From: Dykes, Julie
>> > Sent: 12 June 2001 14:46
>> > To: [log in to unmask]
>> > Subject: Delusional client
>> >
>> > I have been seeing a client who -from information I have received
>> > (unwanted info I might add) appears to have lied about just about
>> > everything he has told me. i am so wanting to stay with what he
brings -
>> > but the urge to confront is there I have to acknowledge.
>> >
>> > Anyone with similar experience?
>> >
>> > Julie
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