Nobody addressed my earlier question about whether it is better, given the
human worship of the penis, if a person is born with micropenis that surgery
and hormones make the gender a girl rather than suffer an entire lifetime as
a non-functioning "male." What got me interested in this subject is having
learned about micropenis issues from men with spina bifida on a list similar
to this. I had never heard about micropenis before hearing these men discuss
their pain at never being able to function with a woman and never being able
to trust a woman they are with (if they do have a relationship) for fear she
will always want a "real man." Is this lifetime of trauma "kinder" than
having the person raised as a different gender?
After seeing the discussion of micropenis on several lists I searched for
mailing lists of persons with this condition. To my surprise, I found one.
But most of those involved seem to have dealt with it by becoming
homosexuals. (The men on the spina bifida list, to my knowledge, were not.)
This seemed to support the claims held by some that homosexuality is not
predetermined genetically but is a choice taken as the least painful route
for those who did not feel secure in other relationships (some say with their
fathers but in this case with women who might not accept them as males unable
to function as such).
Interesting discussions, but I'd like to make the call that while we talk
theories and that's fine, to remember the bottom line in all human affairs
(no pun intended) is relationship. If these people cannot have fulfilling
sexual relationships as men, it seems to not give them the opportunity to
function as females condemns them to ostracism and trauma as non-functioning
males or as equally ostracised homosexuals.
ARIEL
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