My experience as a therapist and personally is that old conflicts
recur and that the situation creates an atmosphere where they are not
contained. It's a 'let 'er rip!' space. Similar things happen over
any inheritance. I cold tall many talles of very regrettable
behaviour in this context.
Best, Bob Young
>Dear List,
>
>Has anybody had experience, either personal or professional, of family
>interaction arising at times of significant loss.
>
>What I am interested in is how families interact at times of significant
>loss. In particular when families have become estranged through 2nd
>marriages, moving away from each other geographically and so on... and then
>coming together when a pivotal family member dies.
>
>What occurs? or is likely to occur? Do families fall back into the positions
>they occupied within the family before they moved away or does something else
>occur? Do old resentments arise. What occurs when a family member has
>changed significantly and refuses to occupy its old family position and
>therefore function, such as, 'The carer' or 'the black sheep' or the
>'scapegoat' or do all these roles get
>re-enacted whenever a family meets, i.e. at xmas, anniversaries, wedding,
>etc. or is loss different?
>
>look forward to your comments
>
>Diana
Robert Maxwell Young, Professor of Psychotherapy & Psychoanalytic Studies,
Centre for Psychotherapeutic Studies, University of Sheffield,
16 Claremont Cresc., Sheffield S10 2TA. http://www.shef.ac.uk/~psysc/
Co-Director, Bulgarian Institute of Human Relations & Honoured Professor,
New Bulgarian University, Sofia. http://www.nbu.bg/bihr/psy.htm
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