I have two teenage daughters. I have been quite deliberate in teaching them
that it is OK to say no. And to stick to it. Especially with authority
figures. And about any subject at all, sex just being one of them. The trick
is to teach them [and learn outselves] that it is OK to say 'No' without
imposing a prescribed list of things they are supposed to say 'No' to.
Let's not underestimate the power and importance of saying 'No' with great
clarity.
And it is necessary also to encourage each other to HEAR when 'No' is being
said, and to respect it.
I think that we enjoy our 'Yes' wholeheartedly when we know that our 'No' is
heard and respected.
Sorry if this is a serious response to what was intended as a lighthearted
comment. I guess it touches a nerve for me.
Gillian
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[mailto:[log in to unmask]]On Behalf Of susanne
Sent: Wednesday, 20 October 1999 7:08
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Subject: Re: Dworkin and Plath again
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> unless we evolve a society in which nobody ever gets to say no to anyone's
> demands for immediate sex it's hard to imagine how they could be made to
> disappear under any circumstances, and perhaps even then.
>
>
Dear Mark Weiss,
the only reasons why we say "no" is because our aunties put all their
efforts in instructing us to say no.
Mine would ask me: What do you say?
And I would answer: " No, thank you".
And she would smile and say; "Good girl!"
Now I am proud to be able to say "No, thank you!"
But deep in our hearths .....we all would say "Oh, yes.Please!"
Susinette
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> Men's fantasies, by the way, are not in my view among those evils,
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