On Mon, 11 Sep 2000, David Kennedy wrote...
>I do not believe that there are grades of eroticism [strange concept - how
>do you grade or measure desire] which have mutual and consensual love and
>sex at one end and the exercise and reception of naked, fascistic power
>relations at the other. Quite simply, there are practices [horrid term]
>which are to do with love and sex and those which are not.
Up to a point, but the significance of an act depends to an extent on
the people involved. Calling one's partner 'fatso' might be a term of
endearment in one relationship, and a wounding remark in another. And a
particular act could be about mutual and consensual love in one
relationship and about power relations in another. It's easy to move
from what you're saying to "I wouldn't like to do that, so it must be
depraved" - which makes me slightly wary of it.
Regards,
--
Peter
http://www.hphoward.demon.co.uk/poetry/
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