At 20:18 06.12.00 -0800, Shan Jayran (Ovular) wrote:
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>The feelings of men as highly sensitive and fearful sexually are so
>overwhelmingly overlooked, as is their natural fear around offering up a
>very vulnerable part of their body to a massively powerful female organ,
>and to female pleasure usage. We are socialised to assume that males
>instantly enjoy sex and are 'naturally' the authoritative partner, whereas
>in fact matters work so much better in the reverse - see Saiving's
>material on the gendered applicability of humility to the doctrine of sin.
I think actually both are defenses. What I certainly am more than just
willing to accept (needless to say, for both sexes) as a "natural"/original
state is sensitivity, but hardly fearfulness, which also certainly can't
lie in the organs (as the powerful/vulnerable relation arbitrarily can be
reversed, so that phantasmata are completely independent of them). Of
course, male vs. female attempts at "controlling the uncontrollable" will
make use of different sexual means.
As an aside I also must say, I for one find the term "usage" a bit out of
place here. If that was how to make a sex life, not to speak of a r'ship,
"work better", I'd rather chose chastity...
Best,
Heike
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